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Maid to be

Filipinos living in the Philippines are said to be blessed because we can easily get help when we need them. I personally grew up with maids at home, even as much as 3 at a time, when it was just me and my Mother. Now are not rich, but we surely did live like we were rich, with maids at home. The maids were my playmates and my companions when Mama had to travel for seminars. When I was old enough to move to my own room, I had a Yaya sleep in the room with me. I even had a Yaya until I was in grade 6.

Since I got married, we had to get a maid. My husband and I work, so we need someone to look after the little one when we’re working. The first maid we had was my youngest sister’s Yaya, so I was used to her. She knew what I liked and got along well with the Hubby. Her husband was not pleased though coz we’re here in Laguna and her family is back home, in the province of Misamis Oriental, in Mindanao. After a year, she had to go home.

We got replacements quite easily, a mother and daughter tandem. I thought that it was necessary to have two, as the little one was growing up and work was piling up. It could get lonely too, so if there are 2 of them, it won’t be so bad. Unfortunately, we had a rough time adjusting to each other; the mother wasn’t much of a cook but was meticulous with cleaning and laundry. The daughter didn’t know much, but was patient with the boy. And there are other little things of course that just didn’t seem right with them. There was this one time that Hubby left his cell phone at home, when he arrived, there was a call made he didn’t make. When we asked them, it took the daughter awhile to admit it was her who made the call. There was also this time when money was left on top of the ref, which I simply left so they could bread for merienda. They said they didn’t know about it, but when the Hubby asked them again, they said they saw it on top of the ref. What irks me more is that they are not happy people, they are mostly sad. Perpetual sadness, that’s what I think. And I like seeing happy faces, smiling faces, light personality.

The list goes on. But they’re great with my boy, they love him so much. Before long, Hubs and I realized that we are at their mercy. If they decide to go pack-up and leave, we’d be doomed. As much as we hate to admit it, we need them. Mama used to say that great maids are hard to come by, now I believe her. My cousin had the most wonderful Yaya, but she had to leave when my niece was 4. The Yaya’s mother asked her to go work abroad to earn more, and she did, she’s now working in Singapore looking after a family with 3 kids.

And then last Xmas, our maids left for a 2-week vacation. We were told crazy to let them go in the Holidays when there is so much to do. But they were adamant to go home, so they left and promised to come back. The first few days of course were very hectic. I had to work from home during our peak season. Luckily, that worked fine. I would be with the little one the whole day, I got to work in between playing with him, cooking lunch (breakfast would be pancakes from Jollibee ), getting him to nap. When the Hubby is home, he would bring dinner or cook dinner. He’d take over watching our boy, while Mommy will work full time until about 12 am. So we got through the 2 weeks, with minimal mishap. We were fed, the little one’s clothes were washed, the kitchen sink was clean, and the bathroom was relatively clean. The house had scattered toys and little stuff everywhere though, but it was a livable house. It was a joy being together as a family, living together just us and proving that we could live without maids. Other cultures and communities have done so and are still doing so.

I wish we could afford not to have maids, I really do. Maybe we could just get one of those cleaning ladies or stay-out maids. They leave when we’re home. Maybe when the little one is older, perhaps we’ll try that. For now, the maids will need to stay.


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Back from the hiatus

I’m back from my so-called vacation.  But it was not entirely so.  We were so busy with the new business venture that there wasn’t time to do stuff.  Hubs and I did however, found time to be with each other.  No yayas and no work definitely for about 10 days.

We went home.  Salay is home to me.  Bugo is home to the hubs.  We also got the chance to spend time with my family and the hubs’.  Home is really where you are most comfortable.  I would imagine staying in Salay for good, growing old there, seeing bugoy grow up.  That would be ideal.  But that is not where we make our living.  Hopefully soon.  In 10 years perhaps? 🙂

I didn’t get to meet up with high school friends.  At the end of each day, I was too tired to drive to CDO and just have dinner.  My days are spent with my little one.  I’m constantly reminded that he’s growing up so quickly, he can communicate his feelings well.  We didn’t agree most of the time, but we had to because there was no yaya to run to.  It was wonderful 🙂

Now, I’m back in front of my desk.  Reading emails, discarding the unimportant ones.  Being on conference calls, multi-tasking.  I’m getting a headache as I type.  But this is life.  In fact, this has been my life for 10 years.  It isn’t always bad, it’s been fun actually.   It’s just that spending time with my kid and hubs are more fun and that should be my life, no?

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been tagged by Kaith

Rule: List all the names you were called by and the people who call you that. Tag at least 5 members of your contacts and give a comment on their site for them to know they’ve been tagged.

Girlie – Given by my Mom’s closest sister, coz she thought I was a very “girlie” baby.  All my cousins & relatives call me this.  My friends from back home also call me this, classmates and friends from grade school, high school and college too.

Girlash – A name from Girlie.  I think I started signing Girlash in High School, so my closest friends in High School and in UP call me Girlash.  This is my fav nickname 🙂

Gerlay – To my really really close friends.  And who can get away with calling me such 😀

Carina – A nick name I used when I started working.  Realized that Girlie might be too…. girlie 😛 So Carina it is.  Only friends/officemates call me by this.

Carins/Caring – Carins is what my closest friends at work call me.  Caring is a name my barkada when I started out at work call me and they still do.

Mommy  – to the Hubs and the Little boy.

Ate – To my parents and sisters.

Tagging Jerry, Chitgoks and Judisan.

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Feeling blah

The past few days I’ve been feeling really down.  Perhaps because I’ve been dog tired from the trip and the work.  Also probably because it was my birthday and you know how birthdays always comes with a bit of depression.  Probably also because I haven’t gone back to the swing of things, I missed the bus from our village which goes straight to Makati for 3 straight days.  So I had to commute longer.  Sucks bigtime.  Probably also because of all these financial news this week – Lehman does the bankruptcy dance, ML on the brink of.  And I feel like I don’t get the support from my manager.


I hate feeling blah.  But I guess it’s quite normal.  I think I just need to do a bit of shopping to release this… depression.  Or I need a massage.  Or I need my girls for gossip and rant.  Or I need breathe some fresh air, see green (the ones that grow).   Whatever that is I need, I hope I get this soon.  I wanna crawl out of this cave, back to my sunny, happy self.


I do have a lot to be thankful for, I know that.  This is really just an episode.  A short one, I dearly hope.


Ok, remind myself about my blessings:

  1. I have a wonderful and funny husband.
  2. I have a sweet, healthy and happy little boy.
  3. I have my parents who love me and sisters who respect me.
  4. I have a job, Which lets me travel and gives me a lot of elbow room
  5. I have really nice new bag J
  6. I have really nice 2 sets of earrings
  7. I got flowers on my birthday J
  8. Got an unexpected gift from a cousin
  9. Had a chance to hang out with a favorite cousin in Singapore
  10.   Got lots of birthday greetings from family & friends


That should tide me over.

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I left Manila yesterday at around 2pm.  Got to Singapore at around 5pm.  And then finally got to Mumbai at 11:30pm local time.  I think in Manila time that would have been around 1:30am.  That’s a long way to travel.

I’m travelling with office friends so its actually fun.  And we’ve flown Singapore Air which is awesome as always.  I’m just sad that they don’t offer Friends anymore in the in-flight entertainment 😛  We met this lady as well on our way.  We have about 2 hours of lay-over at Singapore, we chatted up the whole time.

India’s Mumbai airport….. is different that’s all I can say.  We’re staying at the Taj President Hotel, which is nice.  I love the huge LCD tv.  But I’m not liking the internet, I can’t login to the office network 😦  The main reason why I woke up at 6am to login to the office network and I can’t 😦  Blogging is the next good thing haha!

I’m missing my boys too much.  The little boy said when they brought me to the airport and he saw the plane “Like to go with Mommy”.  I wish I could bring him.  But this is a week’s trip, and it would be easier to bring him if I’m just going to Singapore or HK.  The hubs is taking care of the house and our rice cooker just conked out on us! hahaha  In Philippines, that’s a disaster 🙂

I’m so hungry already, I just attacked Pringles and an Apple.  Our call time with the rest of the team is still at 9:30…. that’s about 2 hours ahead 😦  I’m need to eat something….maybe the free chocolate?  First meeting of the day is at 11am.  Then at 3pm.  Local time, which is 2.5 hours ahead of Manila. 

See, I’m bored.  Stopped watching the TV. Will try to connect to the office again.  Ciao!

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8 things to be happy about

1.  It’s sweldo day for me! 🙂

2.  Working from home

3.  Spending the whole day yesterday with the little boy

4.  Hearing the little boy request to teach him how to write numbers

5.  Pillow talk with the hubs

6.  The best corn beef in the world for lunch and for free! 😀

7.  Royce chocolate as pasalubang from HK

8.  Seeing my hometown Cagayan de Oro featured on National TV 🙂

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Of this….. and that too

So it’s been a wonderful long weekend.  We divided our chores to last us the 3 days.  On Monday, we decided to go to our club house and swim.  We almost didn’t go, something very petty almost ruined it for me.  I simply wanted to have chicken adobo, while the rest of the household didn’t agree with me.  I still went though, I didn’t want to be the party pooper.  And found myself relaxing while swimming with my boy – he does have that magical effect on his Mommy.

Then last night, I was a brat again.  Hate it when I loose control.  Now the hubs is talking to me, only not so nicely.  I guess I deserve it. 

Could it be time of the month again?  Probably.  Sorry again Dad.  I’m such a lousy angry brat sometimes.  My bad. 


Coming from a long weekend, I took a few things with me into the new work week.  I still have long lists of to do’s.  Dwindling at some point, but new things go into it as the day progresses.  And then I sat down, sole purpose is to put a check mark beside tasks.  When I look up, it’s already 12noon and need to move on to get on a conference call. 

That has been my day for the past weeks.  I turned down a higher paying job offer.  I didn’t know really why but mainly because I waited for this post to open up so I could move into it.  I find myself enjoying what I’ve been doing, happy, fulfilled, and yes, stressed J  I’ve always believed that a career should be something you’d like to do, otherwise there’s no sense doing it.  That’s why I stayed.  And staying for a few more years.  20 years or so haha!


Was able to catch the early news morning yesterday.  Congress and LTO are again doing ping-pong regarding plate number “8”.  To be honest, I don’t see a point in giving special plates to our congressmen, senators or what-have-yous.  If they have to come to an 8am meeting, they should wake up at 6, just like any normal person would.  Its not like they can do more when they have special plates, or have police escorts with wang-wangs.  I just hate it when they close a lane in SLEX because someone “high” with police escorts is passing by.  By choice, I don’t let them pass.  I only let Ambulances pass me by, not politicians who use the public’s money to hire police escorts.  Sometimes I get scared when I don’t let them pass, I might be gunned down but it’s a principle I stand for.


Ram Chaves didn’t win Pinoy Idol.  Too bad.  I did think he did well.  Oh well.  Maybe next time someone from Cagayan de Oro will finally make it on Pinoy Idol or PDA.  Who knows in the cabinet?  As my mother would say J




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